How To Find A Balance Between Pain and Possibility…..

Be free! Don’t allow the story or the past events of your life to define your future. Sure, acknowledge the pain… because after all, it did happen. But don’t dwell on it in such a way that it stops you from being happy now – and in the future. And don’t let the pain define you. It’s time to look beyond the pain… and see your possibilities. Because your story is not yet finished!

Take some time. Notice your thoughts. Pay more attention to how you react when you think about your past. If you can, somehow, learn to focus your attention on the now rather than on the past, you can change your life today. There’s always something about you… that you’ll want to change. But to be happy, it’s important that you become happy with who you see when you look into the mirror.

I don’t know your story. However, I do know that there are millions of people just like you all across the world, who come from a past of: Mental/verbal or physical abuse, sexual abuse and dealing with alcoholism – through parents or loved ones. Others are dealing with issues like: The death of a loved one, an emotional breakup, a job loss or family infighting. And it’s natural to feel hurt. Still, to find a balance between your pain and your possibilities, you have to:

  • Accept yourself… and know you’re just as good as anyone else.
  • Avoid getting stuck in one place… or losing yourself.
  • Recognize your good traits… and build on them.
  • Focus on GOD… He can help you work through the difficulties.
  • Accept your flaws… and appreciate the good things about life.

… And come to see those flaws as actually good and unique parts of who you are – so you can learn to work through them – and find possibilities to grow from them and above them.

Remember that, if you get hurt, belittled, insulted, offended, etc., it’s not always your fault. If that’s what you’re thinking, it’s just not true. Believing that, suggests that no one on earth will ever love, bond with or trust you. In fact, that’s even further from the truth. And, that kind of thought process can give you a negative self-image of yourself.

But that’s what happens. Many people just don’t believe they can achieve their goals – because they have a negative self-image, and that negativity will stop them from achieving any kind of success every time. But Faith – not positive thinking – is the key to achievement. And by… through… and with faith – all things are possible.

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7 Important Things I’ve Learned About Life

Over the years, my definitions of happiness and success have certainly changed. Some things that used to be important… no longer hold the same relevance or significance to me as it once did. Certainly then, I’d like to think I’ve matured over the years. And now, I’m inspired more and more to be a giver… because, “GOD loves a cheerful giver.”

Throughout my life – especially over the past 10 years – I’ve tried to be as intentional as I possibly could to be better at being me, and also at helping other people to be better. Seriously! I’ve spent some of my most memorable moments in life, celebrating the successes of others. I helped in other people’s success without worrying about money and without thinking about “Me”… even while becoming exhausted in the process – and I found joy in doing so. I was able to do that because I understood, whatever gifts I have, if I use them to help other people… in turn, those same gifts will make room for me to accomplish my dreams.

“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” ~ Luke 6:38 (KJV)

Here are 7 important things I’ve learned… that have changed my life. I’ve learned that:

GOD responds to FAITH.

Faith in GOD… is all about ACTION.

Life is a journey of great actions – for others first, then for self.

Life is made up of DOING, and not waiting on things to be done.

Life is about being in place, being available and being accountable.

Life is about loving… and being able to give… to others.

Giving is the key to happiness.

There is no happiness except in the realization that we have accomplished something. I’ve found that the most memorable events in my life happened because I decided to honor someone’s request for help to achieve something that was a big deal to them… at the same time while trying to find my way to achievement of my own dreams.

What about you? There’s a reason you’re here… right now… right where you are, in this moment in time. You may not be able to see it now… but you have a PURPOSE. And, it’s up to you, not to spend your most valuable time worrying about all that has happened to you… but to spend time rejoicing over what can happen for you and inside you… when you use the gifts GOD has placed in your possession… to directly help others without the thought of money, until the time that those gifts of giving begin to be returned to you in other ways.

Always See Your Life As Being “INCREDIBLE”

If you were to get everything you wanted, now… all at once: What would there be to look forward to? What would there be to hope for? What would your future look like? What would you wait in expectation for tomorrow?

~ P. Williamson

 

I’ve notice that in the past, like many people, I was always wishing I was doing something different, thinking about what I would do in the future, making plans for my life to come, reading (with jealousy) about cool things other people were doing. Continue reading Always See Your Life As Being “INCREDIBLE”

Watch Where You’re Going. Keep Your Eyes On GOD…

Life Comes At You Fast. But, always Look ahead! You have a long life of promise in front of you… and you don’t want to do anything that could hurt your future. Because life is full of curves and twists. Just like the highway, if you take your eyes off the road of life too long, you might lose control and end up hurting yourself.

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You’ve seen the road signs that say, “Danger Ahead!” It’s a fair warning to be careful as you advance on your journey on the highway. But in life, there’s danger behind you too. And the danger I’m referring to is when you spend more time looking back at the past years of your life… either wishing you could have them back, or wishing you could totally erase them – because it haunts you every day. Continue reading Watch Where You’re Going. Keep Your Eyes On GOD…

Learn To Enjoy Life For What It Is…

We always want things to be different. We don’t know why… we just do. So, we strive to improve things – even ourselves – when we are unsatisfied with how things are. But then what? Most times, we are still unsatisfied, because the underlying cause of our problems isn’t the things around us, but it’s our expectation of things.

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Learn to enjoy life for what it is. Every now and then… take a moment, sit down… and reflect on your life. Continue reading Learn To Enjoy Life For What It Is…

Over Commitment of Your Time, Can Drain You…

“I wish I had more time!” That’s what most people are accustomed to saying whenever they have too much to do… but not enough time, seemingly, to do everything they want to do. It’s an overwhelming feeling. However, it’s just a feeling. Everyone has the same amount of time, but somehow, most people fill up the container of their days with too much stuff.

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You’re not obligated to do everything just because you think you have to do it. When you realize you’re trying to fit too much stuff (tasks, errands, obligations) into a small container (24 hours), it becomes obvious that you can’t get a bigger container … so you have to get rid of some stuff. Everything just won’t fit. Therefore, you have to always think simplifying what you have to do. Continue reading Over Commitment of Your Time, Can Drain You…

Accept What Scares You. But Don’t Let It Stop You…

You can do it. Yet, you have to know it can be done. The fear you feel… you can overcome it. But, overcoming takes practice. Then, more practice. And even as you learn to overcome one fear… soon after, another fear will appear, and you have to practice a new set of tactics all over again. But still, you can overcome it… because you are an overcomer.

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Overcoming anything, especially fear, is a process of awareness, acceptance, seeing the pain, finding gratitude, and living in the moment with a purpose.

Every problem you face is rooted in fear. That might seem obvious, but the real question is how to beat the fears. To know the answer, you first must determine the Why and the How. Continue reading Accept What Scares You. But Don’t Let It Stop You…