Learn To Enjoy Life For What It Is…

We always want things to be different. We don’t know why… we just do. So, we strive to improve things – even ourselves – when we are unsatisfied with how things are. But then what? Most times, we are still unsatisfied, because the underlying cause of our problems isn’t the things around us, but it’s our expectation of things.

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Learn to enjoy life for what it is. Every now and then… take a moment, sit down… and reflect on your life. Continue reading Learn To Enjoy Life For What It Is…

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It Doesn’t Matter What Others Think of Me. Or Does It?

People who repeatedly attack your confidence and self-esteem… are quite aware of your potential, even if you are not.” ― Wayne G. Trotman

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If someone tells you that they don’t care what other people think, they are fooling themselves. Actually, it shouldn’t matter… but for some reason it does.

No one is free from worry.

Everyone is trying to look good in the eyes of others.

Everyone stresses out about how they look.

Everyone stresses about how they’re perceived.

Everyone stresses about whether people think they’re good people.

That’s why Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, blogs and mirrors exist. Continue reading It Doesn’t Matter What Others Think of Me. Or Does It?

When Someone Won’t Change…. What Then?

Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ― Steve Maraboli

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Most people, at some point or another, have had the thought… “What if I could just get them to see things my way?” If only I could get him/her to be more considerate, less annoying, more diligent, see my point of view…

How often have you wanted to change other people so they’d be better? Better spouses, kids, roommates, coworkers, employees? We want our kids to study harder and clean up after themselves, our spouses to be more considerate, our coworkers to be on time, our roommates to be neater, our relatives to be healthier, and so we try to change them.

How often has that worked out for you?

People don’t want to be changed. And we can’t force them to change. This causes no end of frustration, for us and the person who we’re trying to change.

What we can change, instead is:

Our responses to their actions. If someone is being frustrating, we can instead find something to be grateful for about them. We can see their virtues instead of their faults. We can change our expectations of them, and instead accept them for the beautiful person they are.

Our intention for them. Instead of wanting them to change, we can offer guidance in the spirit of helping, but not expect them to accept that guidance. We can show them a way that might be helpful, but not demand they follow that way.

Our example for them. If someone gets angry all the time (and you don’t like that), instead of getting angry back, be the example. How should they deal with frustrations if not through anger? Show them. Be calm. Be loving and gentle and compassionate.

Ourselves. Try changing yourself, and see how easy that is. It’s actually pretty hard. Try changing your diet, or your responses to people. It’s doable, but far from easy. If it’s not easy for you to change, why should we expect everyone else to change, and get frustrated when they don’t? Why should everyone else but you change? Why not change to adapt to the reality of the world around you, instead of expecting the world to bend to your desires?

If we focus on these four things, instead of trying to change people, we will be much happier. And our relationship with others will be much better. Isn’t that worth the effort?

You Being Happy Is Important to… ‘Your Happiness’

Be yourself. After all, at the end of the day… that’s who GOD expects you to be anyway. So, connect with the kid in you again. Smile again. Love life again. Be joyful about being you.

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Really, YOU can be as happy as you make up your mind to be! However, in order to do so, you must never place your mental focus on how stressed you…, but instead, remember how blessed you are.

Accept yourself for who you are. Be happy with who you are. HAPPINESS IS YOUR CHOICE!  Therefore, it is up to YOU to make INDEPENDENT CHOICES and GOD-approved CHANGES in your life. That’s how you find happiness, joy and success in life. However, YOU cannot build a strong, independent YOU… if you can’t live with yourself and be happy with YOU. CHOOSE TO ACCEPT:

Your skills

Your body

Your personality

Your opinions

Your choices

Your preferences

Your life story

The only person that will always be with you is you. So, don’t say things against yourself… not even in your mind… because that’s where negativity starts. Negativity starts as a silent “Happiness assassin”, and before long it takes over your thinking. But, be strong. Learn how to put up with some things. Develop your inner strength. Put your past mistakes behind you, and learn from them. Make an effort to be a better you… and most importantly, LOVE YOU.

GO AHEAD… make the personal decision to be HAPPY.  When you learn to smile about the life you live, you will end up living a life worth smiling about.  Because accepting who you are will keep you from trying to act like someone else – and find happiness perfecting who GOD has made you to be.

GOD, Are YOU There?

So much about life can be hard to comprehend. Sometimes you struggle to find answers, and even lose sleep praying… but still it seems like GOD is so far away.

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If you’re like me… you’ve prayed a prayer similar to this:

“GOD I know YOU see my struggle. I know that in the big picture of the world, my problems are small problems – but that doesn’t make my pain any less – and it doesn’t stop the hurt from echoing deep inside me. YOU said, “Never will I leave nor forsake you”… but GOD really, YOU seem so far away.

I’ve believed YOU for everyone else, and I’ve seen how YOU answer their prayers, but what about me? I do my best to follow the rules… yet still nothing happens. Do you see me?

There are times when I clearly see you at work in my life. I’ve seen you open doors I never knew existed… and plant dreams I didn’t know I had. But “something” scares me about this situation… and I need you now, more than ever before.”

Continue reading GOD, Are YOU There?

That Thing Called LOVE: The DOs and The DON’Ts

Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems… Look for someone who won’t let you face them alone. ~ Unknown

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YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LOVE! Use It Wisely. If you want anything good out of life… be willing to work long and hard for it. MARRIAGE is no exception. Therefore, if you are seeking love and “bliss”… work toward it, and let it meet you where you are.

Be mature about what you are looking for in a person. When it comes to finding the person you were meant to be with, get up and do your homework. Find out as much as you can… while you can, and while you have options. Be “choosy”… but be wise.

It doesn’t require you dating a different person each week… or giving each candidate a list of multiple choice questions, to see which person comes up with the perfect score to fit all the options you are looking for. That doesn’t work. What does work, though, is if YOU understand that the person you are searching for will still be a little rough around the edges in some areas… and if you are willing to allow them to grow along with you as you smooth out your own “rough edges”… you can make something beautiful and lasting out of your relationship.

When you find the person of your dreams, so to speak, if both of you are willing to:

…Be Patient with each other

…Accept each others flaws

…Be Thoughtful enough to care about the others well-being

…PUT GOD FIRST!

…Make future plans together

…Accept blame…even if you’re right

…Let go of self-pride, for the sake of making love work

…Dream together

…Forget about “Separate, but equal”, and work together

…Grow old together

… “FORSAKING ALL OTHERS”… You can have something beautiful, wonderful and filled with happiness… that’s lasting and can withstand the tests of trials and tribulations.

 

7 Things You Can Do To Make Christmas Better For Someone Else

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, JESUS! Thank you for the sacrifice… for making the world a better place… and for bringing ‘purpose’ to the world. During this season of LOVE and GIVING of gifts, I hope you will take the time to reflect on the goodness of GOD, and think about what it means to you. Christmas is not as much about opening our presents as it is about opening our hearts.

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GOD created us to love and help others. However, the direction of our society has caused people to lean more towards selfishness rather than giving, on helping ourselves rather than helping our brothers and sisters in humanity.

I’m not saying we are all like that, but it can happen, if we’re not careful. Too often, the trend in society nowadays is for people to separate from either other.

Cars have taken us off the streets, where we used to greet each other and stop to chat.

Office cubicles have taken away a bit of the humanity in working

Television has planted us firmly in our living rooms, instead of out with other people.

Movie theaters, where many people get together, cut us off from true conversation because we’re staring at a big screen.

All the above-mentioned things are great in many ways, but we have to consciously guard against the tendency of individuality…, which causes us to focus more on ourselves, and exclude our fellow human beings.

Certainly, it’s not the “Presents” that make Christmas so special, it’s the “PRESENCE” of those you love, whether they are with you in person, or spirit… and the “PRESENCE” of GOD. Christmas should never be just about giving presents.

GOD created the best gifts. Yet, it is up to each of us to personalize those gifts and find the best way to use them to be a blessing to others.

Here are 7 things you can do to make the Christmas better for others.

  1. Show love
  2. Practice forgiveness
  3. Be Kind
  4. Show compassion
  5. Be a shoulder for someone to lean on
  6. Helping others bear a burden that’s too heavy
  7. Be a friend to the friendless…

The challenge to present GOD to others is one that lasts throughout the 365 days of each year. And, when all of us can step up to the plate and meet this challenge… it will be very pleasing to GOD, and it will give Him the best birthday present, ever. MERRY CHRISTMAS, everyone. “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.” ~ Luke 2:14 (KJV)