How To Find A Balance Between Pain and Possibility…..

Be free! Don’t allow the story or the past events of your life to define your future. Sure, acknowledge the pain… because after all, it did happen. But don’t dwell on it in such a way that it stops you from being happy now – and in the future. And don’t let the pain define you. It’s time to look beyond the pain… and see your possibilities. Because your story is not yet finished!

Take some time. Notice your thoughts. Pay more attention to how you react when you think about your past. If you can, somehow, learn to focus your attention on the now rather than on the past, you can change your life today. There’s always something about you… that you’ll want to change. But to be happy, it’s important that you become happy with who you see when you look into the mirror.

I don’t know your story. However, I do know that there are millions of people just like you all across the world, who come from a past of: Mental/verbal or physical abuse, sexual abuse and dealing with alcoholism – through parents or loved ones. Others are dealing with issues like: The death of a loved one, an emotional breakup, a job loss or family infighting. And it’s natural to feel hurt. Still, to find a balance between your pain and your possibilities, you have to:

  • Accept yourself… and know you’re just as good as anyone else.
  • Avoid getting stuck in one place… or losing yourself.
  • Recognize your good traits… and build on them.
  • Focus on GOD… He can help you work through the difficulties.
  • Accept your flaws… and appreciate the good things about life.

… And come to see those flaws as actually good and unique parts of who you are – so you can learn to work through them – and find possibilities to grow from them and above them.

Remember that, if you get hurt, belittled, insulted, offended, etc., it’s not always your fault. If that’s what you’re thinking, it’s just not true. Believing that, suggests that no one on earth will ever love, bond with or trust you. In fact, that’s even further from the truth. And, that kind of thought process can give you a negative self-image of yourself.

But that’s what happens. Many people just don’t believe they can achieve their goals – because they have a negative self-image, and that negativity will stop them from achieving any kind of success every time. But Faith – not positive thinking – is the key to achievement. And by… through… and with faith – all things are possible.

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7 Important Things I’ve Learned About Life

Over the years, my definitions of happiness and success have certainly changed. Some things that used to be important… no longer hold the same relevance or significance to me as it once did. Certainly then, I’d like to think I’ve matured over the years. And now, I’m inspired more and more to be a giver… because, “GOD loves a cheerful giver.”

Throughout my life – especially over the past 10 years – I’ve tried to be as intentional as I possibly could to be better at being me, and also at helping other people to be better. Seriously! I’ve spent some of my most memorable moments in life, celebrating the successes of others. I helped in other people’s success without worrying about money and without thinking about “Me”… even while becoming exhausted in the process – and I found joy in doing so. I was able to do that because I understood, whatever gifts I have, if I use them to help other people… in turn, those same gifts will make room for me to accomplish my dreams.

“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” ~ Luke 6:38 (KJV)

Here are 7 important things I’ve learned… that have changed my life. I’ve learned that:

GOD responds to FAITH.

Faith in GOD… is all about ACTION.

Life is a journey of great actions – for others first, then for self.

Life is made up of DOING, and not waiting on things to be done.

Life is about being in place, being available and being accountable.

Life is about loving… and being able to give… to others.

Giving is the key to happiness.

There is no happiness except in the realization that we have accomplished something. I’ve found that the most memorable events in my life happened because I decided to honor someone’s request for help to achieve something that was a big deal to them… at the same time while trying to find my way to achievement of my own dreams.

What about you? There’s a reason you’re here… right now… right where you are, in this moment in time. You may not be able to see it now… but you have a PURPOSE. And, it’s up to you, not to spend your most valuable time worrying about all that has happened to you… but to spend time rejoicing over what can happen for you and inside you… when you use the gifts GOD has placed in your possession… to directly help others without the thought of money, until the time that those gifts of giving begin to be returned to you in other ways.

Learn to Eliminate Unnecessary Things… and Enjoy Life

Life as a whole is better if you go slowly, and take the time to savor it, and appreciate every moment possible. That’s the simplest reason to slow down.

Full speed ahead! That’s how we live in our society. So it seems contradictory to our modern world, where everything is a rush, where we try to cram as much into every minute of the day as possible, where if we are not busy, we feel unproductive and lazy. Continue reading Learn to Eliminate Unnecessary Things… and Enjoy Life

Always See Your Life As Being “INCREDIBLE”

If you were to get everything you wanted, now… all at once: What would there be to look forward to? What would there be to hope for? What would your future look like? What would you wait in expectation for tomorrow?

~ P. Williamson

 

I’ve notice that in the past, like many people, I was always wishing I was doing something different, thinking about what I would do in the future, making plans for my life to come, reading (with jealousy) about cool things other people were doing. Continue reading Always See Your Life As Being “INCREDIBLE”

When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way… Don’t Settle For Less

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” ~ Nelson Mandela

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In reality, life should not be a journey to the grave. It should be lived on purpose with the intent for it to be an exciting adventure.

Each day, it is important to remember that, life has put you in the driver’s seat … and you can travel in any direction you choose. But, being better… having better… and living better, will require strategic moves – in the right direction.

There’s an ever-present underlying feeling that most of us have that we could be doing things better. That we’re not sure how to live life. That we’re doing things wrong. That everyone else is better.

Don’t allow those types of thoughts to cause you to over-compensate, and do too much… by forcing things to happen for you too quickly. Be good at what you do… and give better things time to happen.

Try to improve your life… but don’t feel bad when things don’t change as rapidly as you expect them to. Also, never seek comfort in anything that will cause you to be distracted from what you know your true purpose to be.

Take a moment, sometimes, and pause where you are. Soak in the current state of the room where you are. Stay in tune with your own state of mind. Just notice what it feels like to be alive… and to have life.

Now see how this moment is enough. Just as it is. Without any need for improvement. It is a wonder, and there’s no need for more. Yet when there is a need for more, if you are doing all of the little things well that are right in front of you every day… then more will happen.

Remember this simple fact: When you have done all you can to do all you can, pray about it. Prayer changes things. Put the things in GOD’s hand that seem out of reach for you. Allow GOD to change those things in His own time for you, and you will come to realize that your life will turn out to be absolutely wonderful.

 

Watch Where You’re Going. Keep Your Eyes On GOD…

Life Comes At You Fast. But, always Look ahead! You have a long life of promise in front of you… and you don’t want to do anything that could hurt your future. Because life is full of curves and twists. Just like the highway, if you take your eyes off the road of life too long, you might lose control and end up hurting yourself.

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You’ve seen the road signs that say, “Danger Ahead!” It’s a fair warning to be careful as you advance on your journey on the highway. But in life, there’s danger behind you too. And the danger I’m referring to is when you spend more time looking back at the past years of your life… either wishing you could have them back, or wishing you could totally erase them – because it haunts you every day. Continue reading Watch Where You’re Going. Keep Your Eyes On GOD…

When You Make the Decision to Change… You Can’t Look Back

Fear of failure and change and discomfort and uncertainty are real … but they’re not good enough reasons for inaction. They can all be overcome. I’ve dealt with them, and so have thousands, millions of others. You’re no worse than me or anyone else — you can face these fears.

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The key is… you have to follow GOD. When you make the decision to change… you can’t look back. You have to listen closely to HIS voice, and then follow what HE’s saying to you. From that point, you have to follow the DREAM HE has put inside you. Continue reading When You Make the Decision to Change… You Can’t Look Back