How To Find A Balance Between Pain and Possibility…..

Be free! Don’t allow the story or the past events of your life to define your future. Sure, acknowledge the pain… because after all, it did happen. But don’t dwell on it in such a way that it stops you from being happy now – and in the future. And don’t let the pain define you. It’s time to look beyond the pain… and see your possibilities. Because your story is not yet finished!

Take some time. Notice your thoughts. Pay more attention to how you react when you think about your past. If you can, somehow, learn to focus your attention on the now rather than on the past, you can change your life today. There’s always something about you… that you’ll want to change. But to be happy, it’s important that you become happy with who you see when you look into the mirror.

I don’t know your story. However, I do know that there are millions of people just like you all across the world, who come from a past of: Mental/verbal or physical abuse, sexual abuse and dealing with alcoholism – through parents or loved ones. Others are dealing with issues like: The death of a loved one, an emotional breakup, a job loss or family infighting. And it’s natural to feel hurt. Still, to find a balance between your pain and your possibilities, you have to:

  • Accept yourself… and know you’re just as good as anyone else.
  • Avoid getting stuck in one place… or losing yourself.
  • Recognize your good traits… and build on them.
  • Focus on GOD… He can help you work through the difficulties.
  • Accept your flaws… and appreciate the good things about life.

… And come to see those flaws as actually good and unique parts of who you are – so you can learn to work through them – and find possibilities to grow from them and above them.

Remember that, if you get hurt, belittled, insulted, offended, etc., it’s not always your fault. If that’s what you’re thinking, it’s just not true. Believing that, suggests that no one on earth will ever love, bond with or trust you. In fact, that’s even further from the truth. And, that kind of thought process can give you a negative self-image of yourself.

But that’s what happens. Many people just don’t believe they can achieve their goals – because they have a negative self-image, and that negativity will stop them from achieving any kind of success every time. But Faith – not positive thinking – is the key to achievement. And by… through… and with faith – all things are possible.

Watch Where You’re Going. Keep Your Eyes On GOD…

Life Comes At You Fast. But, always Look ahead! You have a long life of promise in front of you… and you don’t want to do anything that could hurt your future. Because life is full of curves and twists. Just like the highway, if you take your eyes off the road of life too long, you might lose control and end up hurting yourself.

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You’ve seen the road signs that say, “Danger Ahead!” It’s a fair warning to be careful as you advance on your journey on the highway. But in life, there’s danger behind you too. And the danger I’m referring to is when you spend more time looking back at the past years of your life… either wishing you could have them back, or wishing you could totally erase them – because it haunts you every day. Continue reading Watch Where You’re Going. Keep Your Eyes On GOD…

Don’t Feel Guilty About Doing What’s Important To You…

What does your life story look like? Is it exciting? Or, is it just… BLAH? If you want to write a better story for your life… you can. Think of how it would look if you took the time to cut out everything that’s wasn’t necessary. Certainly, it would give you a more meaningful story. Something to smile about.

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Take an inventory of the commitments in your life. How do they give your life value? How important is each commitment to you? Is it in line with your life priorities and values? How would each commitment affect your life if you dropped out? Would it give you time to further your life goals? Continue reading Don’t Feel Guilty About Doing What’s Important To You…

It Doesn’t Matter What Others Think of Me. Or Does It?

People who repeatedly attack your confidence and self-esteem… are quite aware of your potential, even if you are not.” ― Wayne G. Trotman

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If someone tells you that they don’t care what other people think, they are fooling themselves. Actually, it shouldn’t matter… but for some reason it does.

No one is free from worry.

Everyone is trying to look good in the eyes of others.

Everyone stresses out about how they look.

Everyone stresses about how they’re perceived.

Everyone stresses about whether people think they’re good people.

That’s why Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, blogs and mirrors exist. Continue reading It Doesn’t Matter What Others Think of Me. Or Does It?

How to Handle Money… Goals… and Spirituals Things

When times are tough, can you look to GOD for an answer to your financial woes? Does He have a financial law that applies to true Christians today? Many do not realize that GOD has promised to bless those who obey His financial law in faith!

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The way GOD has structured this world; almost everyone has to spend a lot of time earning money. Some people may not like to work, but everyone likes receiving money. It makes us feel safe, powerful, and it’s the key, we believe, to getting lots of other things we need or want to make our lives happier. Continue reading How to Handle Money… Goals… and Spirituals Things

Life Is Not A Race. It’s A Journey. Enjoy The Moment…

Slow down. Calm down… and don’t worry about the hurry. Don’t allow it to control you. You don’t have to rush through life. Take a break from the ‘hustle and bustle’… and be present. Find happiness now, in this moment, instead of waiting for it. Take a moment for yourself. Be still…. just for a moment. Listen to the world around you. Listen to your thoughts. Explore the details of your surroundings. Take an opportunity to be at peace with being still.

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In our modern world, activity and movement are the “default modes,” if not with our bodies then at least with our minds, and with our attention. We rush around all day, doing things…, talking, emailing, sending and reading messages, clicking from browser tab to the next, one link to the next. Continue reading Life Is Not A Race. It’s A Journey. Enjoy The Moment…

When Someone Won’t Change…. What Then?

Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ― Steve Maraboli

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Most people, at some point or another, have had the thought… “What if I could just get them to see things my way?” If only I could get him/her to be more considerate, less annoying, more diligent, see my point of view…

How often have you wanted to change other people so they’d be better? Better spouses, kids, roommates, coworkers, employees? We want our kids to study harder and clean up after themselves, our spouses to be more considerate, our coworkers to be on time, our roommates to be neater, our relatives to be healthier, and so we try to change them.

How often has that worked out for you?

People don’t want to be changed. And we can’t force them to change. This causes no end of frustration, for us and the person who we’re trying to change.

What we can change, instead is:

Our responses to their actions. If someone is being frustrating, we can instead find something to be grateful for about them. We can see their virtues instead of their faults. We can change our expectations of them, and instead accept them for the beautiful person they are.

Our intention for them. Instead of wanting them to change, we can offer guidance in the spirit of helping, but not expect them to accept that guidance. We can show them a way that might be helpful, but not demand they follow that way.

Our example for them. If someone gets angry all the time (and you don’t like that), instead of getting angry back, be the example. How should they deal with frustrations if not through anger? Show them. Be calm. Be loving and gentle and compassionate.

Ourselves. Try changing yourself, and see how easy that is. It’s actually pretty hard. Try changing your diet, or your responses to people. It’s doable, but far from easy. If it’s not easy for you to change, why should we expect everyone else to change, and get frustrated when they don’t? Why should everyone else but you change? Why not change to adapt to the reality of the world around you, instead of expecting the world to bend to your desires?

If we focus on these four things, instead of trying to change people, we will be much happier. And our relationship with others will be much better. Isn’t that worth the effort?