“We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.” ~ Charles R. Swindoll
Attitude is everything! Seriously. That’s the reason it is never a good idea to jump to conclusions. Patience and looking at situations before making a hasty decision is key.
In many ways, we blame other people for our frustrations. For some reason, they seem to irritate us, don’t do things the right way, are incompetent, rude, inconsiderate, bad drivers, too slow, thoughtless, boring, and uncaring.
Truth is…. we will always be frustrated if we stick to this mindset. We will always be angry, offended, hurt, disappointed. There will be no end to the offenses humanity can take against us, as long as we decide that everyone else is wrong, all the time.
Guess what though…. they’re not the problem. In fact, the other person is never the problem. The real problem is our reaction. We cannot stop others from being rude — but we can change how we react.
Successful Real Estate Broker, Gary Woltal said it best in this quote:
“Life is not perfect. You just work your way through things. That involves staying calm, putting your thinking cap on, vent for five minutes maybe, THEN MOVE ON. You move on with being positive, staying in a healthy frame of mind, and finding good nurturing support mechanisms (good people for example) around you as a foundation. YOU be the helper to others in their dire times as well.”
… And it’s true. Sure, there are people who you rely on who are careless and irresponsible. Still, they are not the problem. You can’t change that, and so the question is, how will you deal with it? You can rage and be upset all the time, or you can let go of expectations, breathe, and act appropriately within this reality.
If we can react in a calmer, more peaceful manner, we will be happier. We will then act in a more compassionate way, smile, and perhaps the other person will be transformed just a little bit by this act of compassion.