“I wish I had more time!” That’s what most people are accustomed to saying whenever they have too much to do… but not enough time, seemingly, to do everything they want to do. It’s an overwhelming feeling. However, it’s just a feeling. Everyone has the same amount of time, but somehow, most people fill up the container of their days with too much stuff.
You’re not obligated to do everything just because you think you have to do it. When you realize you’re trying to fit too much stuff (tasks, errands, obligations) into a small container (24 hours), it becomes obvious that you can’t get a bigger container … so you have to get rid of some stuff. Everything just won’t fit. Therefore, you have to always think simplifying what you have to do.
If you’re committed to a lot of things, those commitments are filling up your life. Start getting out of some of them, and saying “no” to new ones. Think about how many of the tasks you want to get done each day, you can reasonably do today. If you want to do ten things, but time will only allow for two or three, do those two or three things well. But, don’t try to force the other things.
By picking your tasks carefully, you automatically downsize what’s in the container of your time. You can pick important tasks or joyful ones, but it certainly helps whenever you are being conscious about the choices. You’re treating it like the precious gift that it is: limited, valuable, to be filled with the best things, and not overstuffed.
What about all the other stuff you want to do (or feel you need to do)? What if it doesn’t fit into the container? The answer to that question is to do those things later. Everything can’t be done in one day.
This in itself is not a problem, but it only becomes a problem when you are frustrated that you can’t fit it all in. Your frustration comes from an ideal that you should be able to do it all, that you should be able to do everything on your list.
You might you want to travel, workout, meditate, learn a new skill, read more, be the perfect spouse (or find a spouse), be the perfect parent/friend/sibling, draw or create music, and so on. Yet no matter what it is you want to do… your ideals have to match with reality.