You can do it. Yet, you have to know it can be done. The fear you feel… you can overcome it. But, overcoming takes practice. Then, more practice. And even as you learn to overcome one fear… soon after, another fear will appear, and you have to practice a new set of tactics all over again. But still, you can overcome it… because you are an overcomer.
Overcoming anything, especially fear, is a process of awareness, acceptance, seeing the pain, finding gratitude, and living in the moment with a purpose.
Every problem you face is rooted in fear. That might seem obvious, but the real question is how to beat the fears. To know the answer, you first must determine the Why and the How.
First, the “Why”: think about each problem you have, and then think about why you have the problem. Or why you aren’t able to solve it.
Fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, fear of letting go of control, fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, fear of discomfort, fear of missing out, fear that you’re not OK as you are or your life isn’t OK as it is, fear that some ideal won’t come true.
And these all boil down to the same fear: fear that you won’t be OK, that you’re not good enough. A lack of trust in GOD… and the abilities HE’s given you, and a lack of trust in what you’re are capable of in the present moment.
So what do you do about it? How do you deal with the fear?
Now, here is the “How”: The real problem is… we see fear as an enemy, to be defeated or it will defeat us. It’s not. Fear is us. We are human beings in a world of constant change, and that’s scary. We are afraid that we won’t be OK in the chaos of change, that we will fail, that we will be judged, that life won’t turn out OK.
The fear is a part of us, and therefore we shouldn’t try to “destroy” it. It can’t be destroyed, because while we can dissipate one particular fear in one particular moment, we’ll still have fears after that. All our lives. It’s not something that can be eradicated — it’s a basic part of life.
So what’s the next step. What can we do?
We can be aware of the fear. When we are struggling, suffering in some way, be aware that fear is stopping us. Look into what the fear might be.
Then we can accept the fear. Don’t feel bad about it, don’t try to crush it, don’t wish it weren’t there. It’s a part of you. It’s a part of life. Accept it.
Then we can see how the fear is hurting us. And see how that hurt is self-caused. How we can let go of the suffering by letting go of the fear.
With practice, we can work with the fear that’s causing our problems. We can accept it without letting it stop us. And this practice, because we are alleviating our own suffering, is an act of self-compassion.