It Doesn’t Matter What Others Think of Me. Or Does It?

People who repeatedly attack your confidence and self-esteem… are quite aware of your potential, even if you are not.” ― Wayne G. Trotman

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If someone tells you that they don’t care what other people think, they are fooling themselves. Actually, it shouldn’t matter… but for some reason it does.

No one is free from worry.

Everyone is trying to look good in the eyes of others.

Everyone stresses out about how they look.

Everyone stresses about how they’re perceived.

Everyone stresses about whether people think they’re good people.

That’s why Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, blogs and mirrors exist.

Unfortunately, this constant worry about how we’re perceived in the eyes of others can cause us to struggle. We worry about simple thing like…. having the right clothes, about how our bodies look, about how our hair looks, etc…

Worry takes up so much mental energy. We can’t just completely forget about it — it’s not in our human nature. We can tell ourselves that “other people’s opinions don’t matter” or “no one is really thinking about us” but it won’t stop our brains from worrying about it. So what can we do about it?

Become More Aware. We can be aware of these anxieties as they come up. We can realize that the anxieties aren’t a command but rather just something that arises, like clouds coming over a mountain. They’ll pass, float away, if we just watch them without too much attachment.

Then we can go below these anxieties and see our basic goodness underneath. We are good people, with good hearts, and we just want to be loved and appreciated. We worry about not being loved, we worry about being judged, and these are very human worries. We are good, underneath it all. And, not of that really matters much anyway.

Take the time to get to know you. Get to know the beauty that exists inside you. It is always there, and you can tap into it whenever the worries come up.

Because no matter what other people think of you, you have to come to realize that you are okay just the way GOD made you, regardless of what other people think of you.

 

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