Life is short! We all have a limited time to live a remarkable life. Some people live for seconds, days, years, decades — but nobody is here forever. That’s why; we have to take the time to give the best we have to offer to all of our relationships. Love always goes the extra mile.
People change! It’s a fact we have to live with every single day of our lives. Changes in life outside our relationships with family, friends, significant others, and co-workers… will impact what we want and need from our relationships with each person in every facet of our lives. Since change is inevitable, welcoming it as an opportunity to enhance our relationships is more fruitful than trying to keep it from happening.
No matter where we are in life, everything that involves building better connections with the people in our lives will take a great deal of love, patience and understanding. There’s no room for blame; but only room for total consideration of others and where they are in life.
Always keep this insightful advice from the Bible in mind when you’re trying to find peace with others, when conflicting situations seem to drive a wedge between you and them… “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.”
We can blame family problems on many things in our modern world. Things like work, stress, money problems, etc., are the leading causes; but the main reason there are so many relational problems, is… people are simply “failing to communicate” more – and because people don’t spend enough time actually talking to each other or trying to understand each other. Each person is an individual. Each person has their own feelings, needs and wants. It’s also human nature to feel that our own needs are always more important and urgent than what others need; which can lead to a lot of fights, arguments and misunderstandings. But, if you are focused on finding ways to build great relationships, it’s important to:
Build – Build a foundation of appreciation and respect. Focus on all the considerate things people have to say. It’s good, too, to make a point of noticing even small opportunities to say “thank you”… rather than focusing on mistakes.
Explore – Explore other people’s interests so that you have a long list of things to enjoy with them when the time comes. Try new things together to expand mutual interests.
Establish – Establish a pattern of apologizing if you make a mistake or hurt someone’s feelings. Saying “I’m sorry” may be hard at the moment, but it goes a long way towards healing a rift in relationships.
When you approach your relationships from a support mindset rather than a self-centered attitude… people will also trust you more if they know you will take responsibility for your words and actions.