We strive to improve our lives, mostly because we are dissatisfied with how things are. How do I know this? Well, because I’ve lived it… and I know other people who have as well. But, the striving never ends – when you are unhappy.
When you are unsatisfied with how things are, including yourself, you can make changes, but then what? You will still be unsatisfied, because the root causes of the problem aren’t the things around you, but your expectations. Actually, you expect things to be different, and they’re not. The mental conversation you probably have with yourself might go something like this:
- I don’t like the way I look, so I try to improve myself.
- I don’t like my house, so I work to get a better one.
- I want everyone around me to improve too, so I push them to change, and get frustrated when they won’t.
However, not everything in life will meet your expectations. Still, many people try to correct this problem by changing the world around them, trying to get others to change, or trying to change themselves. The compulsion to spend, to consume, to buy more stuff … it’s rooted in this as well. But, GOD made you the way you are – for His purpose. So the only way to change anything about life – from the inside out – is to do it by faith in GOD. Don’t expect anything of yourself. Instead, put all of your expectations in GOD, so He can help you address the root problem: your expectations.
Here are some things to consider:
Sit for a minute and look at the things around you. Are you happy with them, or would you like things to change?
Think about what you do each day, and ask if you’re happy with your daily life, or if you’d like change.
Think about the people in your life, and ask if you’re happy with them, or if you’d like them to change. Think about yourself, and see if there are things you’re dissatisfied with, if you’d like to change yourself.
Now, for each thing you think needs change, try sitting for a minute and see if you can simply accept each one, as they are right now. See if you can accept each person in your life for who they are, and exactly as they are. See if you can accept your body for what it is, without the need for change. It will take PRAYER and PRACTICE, so if you aren’t good at it at first… keep praying and keep practicing – because it’s an enlightening process, for sure.
Change is inevitable, but once you become happy with things and people as they are … and yourself as you are… you can become whole, without the need to try and fit everyone and everything into your puzzle – just so you can be happy.