Real Love: What It Is, and What It’s Not

The most perfect description I’ve ever read concerning what real love is, can be found in the Bible. It reads:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” ~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

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If you truly love someone, love drives you to sacrifice for that person, sometimes at your own loss.

Love isn’t easy… but it must be fought for, because when it is real, it’s well worth the fight. Wherever a seed of love is planted, and nurtured…, then it will keep growing and growing, because love knows the beginning… yet, it does not know the end.

Most people believe in love strongly. But, is it really love they’ve found? They might think so. Their significant other may also agree that it’s the real thing. Truth is, though, they might have simply created a fantasy that can only survive in the bubble of the manipulated realities they have invented. And if that’s the case, the magic will die or fade away under the stresses and strains of real life.

Real love… is a series of choices. It is not purely an emotion or a feeling that you just helplessly fall into like a hole in the sidewalk. Real love is deliberate. It gets tested. It lasts, not because of how you feel about each other – but because of your dedication to your commitment to each other.

What Love Is Not

Real love is not just an emotion… it’s a commandment from GOD – “Love one another; as I have loved you.” And, although your emotions become heavily involved, real love cannot be based solely on how you feel… and feelings cannot be your only criteria for love. Real love… is tested love; and it cannot be shielded from the side effects and consequences of real life.

The problem with trying to “find” love these days is that, too often people don’t always look for the right characteristics in another. Rather, they look at physical appearance, popularity, or financial status. However; these are not the traits that GOD looks for… and neither should we.

Contrary to what most people might think, love is not something that’s accidental, incidental, or happenstance. Believe it or not… it happens by the absolute force of two independent wills of people who are focused on the same thing… and going in the same direction. It happens because the two people involved wanted it to happen, and have somehow – sometimes unknowingly – put forth a significant effort to make sure that it did happen.

Also read: Part 1 – What “I Love You Really Means”

                 Part 2 – What “I Love You Really Means”: Love Is An Inside Job

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