Before You Say, “I DO”: 10 Things You Should Consider

Everyone hates homework. However, if you are considering marriage (i.e: “Tying the knot,” “Jumping the Broom,” “Getting hitched”, “Going down the aisle,” “Popping the question”)… make sure it is not a rash decision, but one that is well thought out, researched and planned carefully. Love has many sides. Therefore, there are some prerequisites that you should fully explore about the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with – in order for you to have a successful union.

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There is nothing more beautiful and sentimental as watching two people in love, exchange nuptials – promising themselves to each other – for a lifetime. When it’s right, it’s right. But, when marriage is rushed into… it can cause a disaster that could last an entire lifetime.

In a recent post I wrote for my personal Facebook page, I asked the question:

What do you know about LOVE? Did you think LOVE was all about giving you what you need and deserve. If so, that’s only partially true.” I went on to add, “Actually LOVE is more about making you a giver, first. So if you enter into LOVE wondering, “What’s in it for me”… then please make sure that the answer that you discover is GOD. Why? Because whatever GOD is a part of… always lasts. Love is meant to help you grow… and not just be “Dreamy-eyed.”

The reason I stated LOVE from that angle, is because so many people rush their judgment about how wonderful marriage is… but they never fully consider the work that has to be put into marriage in order for it to be a happy one. No two days will be the same, and because of that, a lot of what happens in a marriage will depend on your interaction with your spouse… and your reaction to whatever mood they might be in at the time. 1. Rush to judgment too quickly to something that was said or done… and it could set off a never-ending firestorm. 2. Move too slowly… and you could be labeled “negatively” for the rest of your marriage.

LOVE is beautiful, for sure… and so is marriage. If you sincerely want your marriage to be a happy one, make sure you know exactly who you are marrying, first. Once you “Kiss the bride”…, or the groom, for that matter, you’re in it for a lifetime comment. Therefore, you will have to learn to take it day by day. In addition, if you take the time to understand and get to know the other person’s moods, and learn to show patience in the midst of each mood, you can make it – and enjoy a happy life with the one you love.

Although this is by no means a conclusive list, here are 10 Things To Consider Before You Say “I Do”.

How a person acts when they are:

1. Happy

2. Sad

3. Angry

4. Worried

5. Afraid

6. Tired

7. Financially distressed

8. Bored

9. Insecure

10. Lonely

Being married does not offer guaranteed protection from the dangers of any of the above-mentioned emotions or moods. That’s why it’s good to know how to be there, and what to say during those somber days… and on the goods days, alike. A lot of what happens in a marriage has more to do with how you approach it, more than anything else. Never expect *magic* if you are not willing to do what it takes to create that magic.

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