Why do we struggle to win everyone’s approval? Sadly, many of our decisions have been motivated actions in an attempt to win the acceptance and admiration of the people we love and look up to. But, putting the direction of your life in another person’s hands is to miss out on your own life altogether. It’s better, though, to design your own ideal life in every area – spiritual, career, health, love, social, etc… Then, you will find that there are no limits in life – except those limits you set for yourself!
Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? What is one area of your life you have been putting off/avoiding/denying… because you are still seeking the approval from someone else to go after your dream?
For whatever reason, there is something about pleasing people – that pleases us. Nevertheless, we have to learn to accept ourselves… and fight the urge to be accepted by everyone. We also have to accept the things we don’t like about ourselves. Accepting does not mean liking what you see, but accepting that they are real. If you have a bad temper, you do not need to like your bad temper. But you must accept that you have one!
How do you feel about your life today? Are you living every day with excitement? Do you love what you’re doing… regardless of what other people think about it? Are you excited every single moment? Are you looking forward to what’s coming up next? Are you living the best life you know how to live? Are you being yourself?
Being YOURSELF means being authentic. Authentic people don’t waste their time becoming somebody else. They don’t waste their time pleasing others because they know that nobody can please everybody.
Only when we accept ourselves for who we really are… can we start to grow. We must accept our strengths and also our weakness, the good and the bad in us. Only when we can look at ourselves objectively can we start changing those aspects of our lives that need improvements.
If you want to win the approval of others, first seek to win the approval of GOD. GOD already approves of you… He created you! However, He will not approve of how you are living your life right now… if you’re living to please others more than you’re living to please Him.
Life itself… is amazing! And, your attitude determines how you see life and whether you enjoy it or not. You control your own attitude, and your own fate. Once you get rid of the idea that you must please other people before you please yourself, and you begin to follow your own instincts, only then can you be successful. You will become more satisfied, and when you’re satisfied… other people will become satisfied with who you are and what you do.
If you believe in yourself, if you demonstrate courage and confidence; not only will you inspire and encourage others, but you will also change other people’s opinion of you. Your attitude towards yourself is the key to finding the treasure inside you. Love GOD! Love yourself, and invest in building your capabilities and associations through constant learning and choosing wise friends who can inspire you to ‘Dream Big’.