“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen
There are so many ways to show love. But, what exactly is true love? How can a person know when they have actually found it? Is love determined and solidified by the beautiful words someone utters to another… or kind gestures – or is it more about the action? The truth might be shocking… and it might hurt a little to know the truth. Let’s explore.
Showing is knowing! So, it’s good when a person says thoughtful things… because it brings about a good inner feeling that you’re cared for in a special way. However, understand this… love is so much more than thoughtfulness; it’s more about the actual execution of thought, that matters. What I mean is, it’s about someone being there and showing up when it matters most. Everyone is busy these days, yet, if a person says to you, “I love you,” you have to confirm if you can interpret them as saying, “I am willing to be there for you” – whether things are good… and even if they are not so good. If they mean they are willing to work through the “ruckus” – in the worst of times – until things are back to running smoothly again.
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche
Honestly, when a person says, “I love you” it means that they are willing to accept you for the person you are, and that they do not wish to change you into someone else. It means they do not expect perfection from you, just as you do not expect it from them. It means loving you when you’re in a bad mood or too tired to do the things they want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. ‘I love you’ means that they know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return only that you do not judge them for theirs. It means they care enough to fight for what you both have together… and they love you enough not to let go. It means:
Thinking of you
Dreaming of you
Doing things for you
Listening to you
Wanting and needing you constantly
Hoping you feel the same love for them
People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and it’s true… that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.
Soul mates…, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life. That’s why LOVE… and a good SOUL MATE are GOD’s gifts; because together, they show you who you really are – inside and out.
Therefore, if you are searching for love… this is the type of person – Soul Mate – you should be searching to find. Then, once you see who you are, you can also see GOD much clearer… and begin to love Him, and life, the way GOD intended.