“A man that has friends must show himself friendly…” ~ Proverbs 18:24
Sometimes, to enjoy your life… you have to “Change Your Point of View.” You have to change your whole perspective of things and allow space for others to enter into your world…in order to have a well-rounded social life.
“Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars.”
People see things through their own eyes… and therefore, their interpretation of the world as they know it…will always be much different from how you see things. But, in the social world, it’s good to be able to get another person’s point of view. And when you’re patient enough, you can learn something from the oldest or poorest man or woman on earth… down to the smallest, most naïve child.
I read a great book a short time ago. In it was a passage that read… “If you want to win people over to your dreams [to who you are as a person], you need to speak in the same language of their interests, not your own.” You have to “Show them your heart. Just because people want to know what’s in it for them when you share your dreams” [or when you share who you are as a person], that doesn’t mean they lack interest in what it means to you. People buy into the dreamer before they buy into the dream.”
So Why Nurture An Optimist’s Point Of View? And Why Now?
Having a good social life – being able to connect with people on various levels – brings happiness, cheerfulness and optimism. And, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from distress.
Optimists Expect the Best
The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault. In addition they avoid having broad social and business contacts. The truth is, optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune—it is the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.
People Respond Positively To Optimists
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are around most.
When The Going Gets Tough, Optimists Get Tougher
Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise. Why not broaden you scope of life…interact with people – share YOU with the world. And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.